The most important skill for a counsellor is patience and listening. After I started training in as a counsellor and healer in multiple modalities, I realised that many of the clients who come for a session or who wanted a counselling just needed to be heard.
We live in a world where people are constantly occupied with something, they have to do lists, tasks to complete, family to take care of and are often jumping mentally to the next item in their to do list while still being on the current list. having such hectic schedules, hardly gives us a moment to think or connect not only with the world around us but also with our inner self. We have lost the ability to stop and listen.
Sometimes, we just need someone to listen to us but unfortunately, everyone around us is equally caught up in their schedules and just living, day to day.
It also happens that when we do share and talk with family and friends, they already have a perception of you and your life and there is often unwanted advise coming from them. They do this because they care, but at those moments, all you need is a listening hear, some one who listens to you with out judgement or advise and just allows to talk. Often, solutions come to us when we listen to ourselves talk to someone without judgement or advice.
Being non judgemental is something else, we as counsellors and healers have to develop. I admit, it was not the most easiest thing to do, but after training as a Family Constellations practitioner, it becomes a part me in that role. Through this modality, I have realised that, I have the ability to listen, just listen by allowing my client to talk.
This process of being able to voice out, talk and share with someone is a catharic experience for them. It is easier to talk to strangers or with people who don’t know you personally. They have no bias and they are a blank screen you can write your thoughts on, then stand back and read it from a distance. It makes you feel validated from within.
The added bonus is that you have me, a trained therapist and healer with you during this sharing session.
Everyone has different needs for and after such sessions, that is why I offer multiple options during sharing therapy.